Omotola Jalade- Ekeinde Opens Up in an Exclusive Interview “I Have Been Tempted Many Times to Cheat on my Husband”
Multiple-Award winning actress and A-lister Omotola Jalade- Ekeinde opens up in an exclusive interview with Vanguard on how she’s been able to maintain the sanctity of her marriage despite several looming temptations she had faced and which probably had made some of her colleagues fail in maintaining their matrimonial homes. Omo-sexy as she’s fondly called celebrates her 20 years in the Nollywood industry in 2015, has been married to her pilot husband, Captain Matthew Ekeinde for over 15 years and they are both blessed with 4 wonderful children.
Omotola stands out in the Nollywood not only because of her great acting prowess but the way she has been able to balance work and family and most importantly how she has successfully kept her marriage vows without any alleged infidelity being linked to her matrimonial home.
Check out an excerpt from her interview with vanguard below:
On the secret of her success in marriage: Ekeinde said “I have been favored by the Lord”, she began. “I am truly blessed to have been married to one-of-a-kind husband who appreciates what I do, encourages me to excel in my craft. Let me tell you this: I take my marriage very seriously. If you treat your marriage with levity and careless abandon, you will reap the reward for such bad behavior. My husband is an angel, brought by God to my life, and it has been a blessing having him as my husband.”
On getting material things from influential and powerful men: She said “Sure, I have received lots of goodies from my male admirers,I do not give anything in return. I always tell them that I am married and would not compromise my martial vows. If after making that point clear, they still continue to shower me with gifts, maybe believing that something will break in the future, then I cannot help them.”
On meeting a man she has genuinely liked after she got married: She said “Absolutely. I have been tempted many times to cheat on my husband by men I really liked. But when you think of what you stand to lose, the destruction of all you have labored to build, when you weigh all the options, you are left to conclude that it is not worth the trouble. I know some women will find this somewhat objectionable, but if they want to be truthful to themselves, they will agree with me that, as married women, we have all faced moments that I have just described.”
On the reduction of the passion for her husband over time: She said “Of course, it has”, which married woman who has been with her husband for years will, in her true state, tell you that the feeling has remained the same as it was the first time or the first year she met her husband? It is bound to cool off. What I recommend to women is what I call “temporary separation.” You will make yourself unavailable to your husband. Go somewhere – go on vacation with your friends, do something bold, lose weight, look different and, after weeks, come home, looking drop dead gorgeous, and I bet you, the fire of passion will be mightily rekindled and you will feel brand new again. I have applied this principle in my marriage and it has worked wonders.”
On her recent weight loss being linked to rekindling the passion in her marriage: She said “You have to love yourself first. I do not see the weight loss you are talking about, “she said smiling as if to say, “Yes, I did it and I love the way I look.”Omotola went on to advise women that they “should learn to appreciate the fact that you can live without anyone” and that the “world would not come crashing on you if you did so. I think women should empower themselves while still remaining true to their marriage and husbands. If a marriage is stressful, emotionally destructive, I think we should be strong enough to walk away from such damaging unions.”
On being a difficult Actress to work with: She answered emphatically according to the Vanguard report, “Yes, I am difficult. It depends on who I am dealing with. If you are not focused, I bet you, I will be your nightmare. People who are professional about what they do, have no problems with me.”